Friday, January 29, 2016

Yours Honestly, NS: Fragile Facades

            I believe one of the most challenging things about being in nursing school is how little anyone can relate to you besides nurses and other nursing students. The moment nursing school begins, you’re plunged headfirst into a world—an education system—extremely different from any you have ever experienced before. Some of the differences are subtle, others outstanding; they compound to mold you and change the way you view yourself. Before, classes were gen-eds. The most set-apart were the sciences, but you were still among various majors. Aside from college acceptance and a passing grade in any pre-required class, there was nothing weeding people out of your classes; the levels of academic fervour amongst the students were significantly varied. However, when you look at the faces around you in nursing school, you know that each and every one of those people earned his/her seat, just like you did. They had to have gotten good grades and a good TEAS score to make it into a program this competitive. You’re looking at fellow “top of the class” students, so there’s nothing particularly special about you anymore. Unless you’re completely consumed with your grades and very forthright about your vigor for the class (there are those students), you’re just another good student working hard to do well. Yes, a hierarchy develops; not everyone is on the same plane. As I said, you still have your go-hard grade-obsessors (you can refuse to believe me, but I am not amongst them), and there are those who are barely scraping it out. But the middle class is vast and is made up of those who were likely once viewed as “top-notch” students. Everyone in the class is smart, though not all in the same way. You never realize how much you were accustomed to being the top of the class until you’re just another number in the middle.
            Then there’s the fact that nursing abilities are not the same as academic abilities. Yes, you need to be strong intellectually to be able to do nursing, but test grades coming easily is no indication that nursing skills will. It does not help that I did not grow up around any nurses, nor have I nor any of my family members ever been hospitalized for any substantial amount of time (at least, not during my lifetime). Because of this, I often feel as if I might as well be illiterate. Nursing uses a language of acronyms, multi-syllable words, and medication names, both generic and trade. Having taken Medical Terminology at CCC (thank goodness!), I’m decent with terms that use the Latin word parts, but these people speak letters and abbreviations and drug names. And they expect you to be familiar with them, especially since a good chunk of the class is. I’m in class with CNAs, EMTs, LPNs, etc. who hear this stuff every day. The instructors insist that this does not give them an advantage, because they probably picked up bad (lazy) habits that they’ll have to break while in school. But at least they can understand what is being said at the front of the classroom. And it seems like, if you’re not already in healthcare, then you probably chose nursing because you sat at your loved one’s side in the hospital for a year and absorbed everything via osmosis. I’m about as clueless as new nursing students come, and I’m not quick to pick things up.
            It’s hard, knowing that so many have great expectations for me. I’ve always been this “A” student that loved science and just got it; when I said I was going into nursing, first reactions were always, “Wow! What a great field! You’re going to be a great nurse!” It was encouraging.
But nursing school is not encouraging, and it steals the encouragement out of others’ statements.
Because, suddenly, I don’t just get it. I panic through my drug calculations. I fumble through tasks and end up squirting water over my entire sterile field. I go to school, smile and nod, pretending that I understand the stories people tell me about the drug or surgery or whatever so-and-so had. I go through lab, desperately trying to catch on and complete my skill before moving on to the next one (I often don’t succeed). I often go home feeling defeated, unworthy, and embarrassed. When I go somewhere that’s not school, I am asked how school is going: cue the conflict of deciding whether or not to sugar coat and bend the truth to prevent discomfort for both parties or to just state the painful fact that school is hard, and I’m discouraged. I usually settle somewhere in the middle, and people tell me that they’re sure I’m doing great and am going to do so well. I seem ungrateful and rude, I know, but you have to understand that those comments don’t help in the way they were intended to. Because, all the while, I’m thinking, “how can you know that?” How can they know how good or bad I am at placing a Foley catheter or assessing my patient or doing vital signs? They can’t. It makes me feel lonely and misunderstood.
            Growing up, my mom (and other teachers) would always say to ask questions, because if you’re wondering it, odds are another student is too. If you feel lost, you’re probably not the only one. But being placed somewhere where you feel like the minority, you get that false idea that you’re the only one who’s lost. The only one who didn’t understand. The only one who sobbed at clinical. So you keep it to yourself so people don’t think you’re incapable. The problem is, lots of us get lost. Lots of us don’t understand. And I know I’m not the only one who cried at clinical.
            The girl I ate lunch with one day—she cried at clinical as well.
That guy who works at a hospital and is good at it—he struggled with his shift assessment too.
            Goodness, someone even threw up!
Yes, I’ve had at least three category 5 meltdowns—two that my mother is aware of. My mom told a nurse she knows about them, and the nurse’s response was “Only two!?!”
            Anyone who has ever heard about nursing school is familiar with the infamous nursing school meltdowns, but I don’t think they really understand what they entail. They’re not your run-of-the-mill stressed out meltdowns: the ones when you’re tired and cranky and just want a good long nap. They’re more than that—at least, mine are. They involve the deepest levels of self-doubt.
What if I fail? What if I keep going, and my incompetency hurts someone? What if I ruin—or end—someone’s life? What if I have wasted all these hours, all this money, on this childish dream that I could accomplish something so great—so heroic? What was I thinking? I’m going to be a disappointment. An embarrassment.
            It takes a nurse looking at me with sympathy and strength, telling me that “You’ll get it; it comes with time,” or another student’s confession that she was terrified as well, to remind me that, just because everyone looks put together, doesn’t mean that they always are. And just because it doesn’t come as easily or quickly for me as it does for some other people, doesn’t mean it’ll never come.
I didn’t write all this to pout. I didn’t write all this to gain pity (please, anything but pity!). And please know, to all who have given me encouragement, I don’t want to make you feel bad about trying to encourage me. I sincerely understand and appreciate your intent. Why did I write this, then? Part of me is asking myself that same question right now—like I usually do when I write a blog post (you might be surprised at how many posts get started and/or completed, yet sit unread in my documents). I think I wrote this, because I know I would like to hear a fellow nursing student admit these things. It’s comforting to know that you’re not the only one who doesn’t have it all together. Who wonders if she made a mistake. Who has to summon every inch of her will to bolster up a smidge of confidence. Who even chants, “I will not drop out of nursing school. I will not drop out of nursing school,” on her way in, some days. Who is mastering the art of carrying on a conversation in which she doesn’t understand 10% of what the other person is saying.
Maybe I am the only one who feels like this. If so, I guess this will be an embarrassing post. But what if I’m not? What if there’s another aspiring nurse out there that has hit his low point and just needs to know that he is not alone? Who knows, deep in his gut, that he will get there; he just needs someone who actually understands how he feels to be honest about it.
Yes… I guess that’s why I’m writing this.
And if nursing school has taught me anything, it’s that we all go through it differently. No one’s experiences are the same as another’s. And that’s okay.
Yours honestly,


Saturday, October 31, 2015

An Overdue Thank You Note to Teachers

Sometimes, I wonder what teachers are thinking when they write little encouraging notes on students’ assignments. And what I mean by that is, I wonder if they expect them to make any impact. So many teachers go into the profession hoping to change and shape students’ lives—to lead them to success and teach them to thrive. But, more often than not, they see an entire class fail a test (that the previous class did fine on), a student cheating, a generation whose writing abilities are seemingly growing extinct, or another parent complaining about her child’s grades. Meanwhile, there are those few students that never miss class, always come prepared, obviously study, and consistently do a good job. The teacher puts a small comment on the (probably too long) essay and moves on. The student continues doing what he/she always does. Nothing is said (though the kid who pulled his answer out of thin air has plenty to say about his grade).
Several teachers throughout my schooling career have been faithful commenters. The comments are usually small. Took five seconds of the teacher’s time, max. But they have had lasting influence on me, not that those teachers have ever known that.
She probably never realized that the smiley faces she put on the top of my paper when I did well made my entire day, because I was struggling with the adjustment from homeschooling to “normal school,” I felt behind when it came to math, and her class was the hardest class I had (and she was one of the teachers I admired the most).
There is no way he could have known that it took me three hours to complete that assignment, because I cannot be anything but nauseatingly thorough, even if I try. He could not have known that it was actually done from 11 p.m. to 1 a.m., because I had dinner, church, and dorm devotions before I could ever even touch my pile of homework, and, halfway through, I had to take a few minutes to sob, because I was sleep deprived and homesick. All he knew was that I did my best, and he wrote “Your usual excellent work,” not knowing that doing assignments with a headache, minimal sleep, and an accompanying cry-fest was how I usually accomplished that work.
When she wrote “an excellent critique,” she could not have known I downloaded the assignment to Dropbox, thinking “I know my instructor will hate this. I have never done APA, and I had to cut out the majority of what I had to say to make it as short as she wanted. This is terrible work, and this will be the first impression she has of my writing.”
I doubt my teachers know how comments like “Wow!” “Excellent!” and “Great work!” have motivated my academic career.
Because, a lot of the time, it is the “A” students that get the least recognition. We work hard, and nobody expects anything else. “A” is so normal, not many think to congratulate you on it. The attention must be directed to the student who might not pass or the one who does not make use of intrinsic motivation.
Student gets an “A.” You do not congratulate him. He still gets another “A.”
Student gets an “A.” You do congratulate him. He still gets another “A.”
It is hard to see your actions making any difference, but believe me, they do. It was those smiley faces that let me know you were proud of me, and that I was going to be okay. It was the little comments on my discussion forums that motivated me to keep doing my best, even though I knew that people who worked half as long as I did got the same exact grade. I wanted you to know that I would keep working at the top of my game, because you noticed. It was that comment on my first article critique that has kept me from giving up hope on all future writing assignments. It is the little “wow’s” and “excellent’s” on my homework assignments that have made your other homework assignments from being so tedious, because I know you notice and appreciate thorough work.
So, what are you thinking when you write those comments? That they will be overlooked? Fleetingly appreciated, then forgotten? That maybe they are not worth your time?
They are. Please, do not stop. You never know when your “A” student is on the brink of giving up hope—and his/her GPA. And you never know which comment may be the little tug that pulls the kid back and gives him/her the motivation to keep going. Because we respect you. We appreciate  you.
We thank you.

Thursday, October 22, 2015

Hard Times~Good Things

Psalm 84: 11, 12
“For the Lord God is a sun and shield:
the Lord bestows favour and honour.
No good thing does he withhold
from those who walk uprightly.
O Lord of hosts,
blessed is the one who trusts in you.”
Coach Carver, a beloved family friend and CCC professor, posted this verse and some of his personal commentary just the other day. I have recently purposed in my heart to always read his updates, because I have been noticing the side effects of not being surrounded by Bible classes, God-fearing professors, RD’s, RA’s, and DL’s every day of the week. Just like my muscles, which have not been worked as hard since school started as they were this summer, my spiritual life is experiencing atrophy, and I need more support than I am taking in. Of course, his words were exactly what I needed to hear on that particular day. In fact, I’ve been needing to hear them for quite some time, but maybe my heart was not ready to receive them until now. Coach emphasized, “No good thing does He withhold, that is, nothing He deems good for us at the present time.” To be 100% honest, I selfishly have been thinking that I need more “good” than I feel like I’ve been getting.
It made for a crazy start to nursing school,
but Micah's birth and quality time with BOTH
my sisters is something I would NEVER change.
This semester has been hard so far, and not for the reasons I thought it would be. They are easing us into the nursing program, so this is not the hardest I have ever been pushed academically (yet). In fact, the stark difference of school dynamic and only having classes three days a week have made it very hard to get settled into a study routine, and I feel like I have been doing the bare minimum. Not only that, but the first month or so of school was a whirlwind of nephew, sisters, and spontaneous weekend trips, so, at that time in particular, I was really just keeping my head above the water (more accurately, God’s grace and mercy were keeping my head above the water). Add onto this the transition from living on a campus—with constant social interaction and support—to living at home as the only child (since all the other ones have done those things called marriage and moving away). A wonderful woman—wife of one of Berean’s teachers/coaches—warned me of one of the main things I might go through with this transition: loneliness. You see, she did almost the exact same thing that I am doing. She lived in this area, went away to CCC for a couple years, then returned home to finish college locally. She mentioned how hard it was to go from living with 7 other girls to living at home with just her parents for company. Though she loved her parents, it’s just not the same, and loneliness is likely to creep in. I really did not expect this to be a huge deal for me; after all, I have some friends here, and I have made new ones. But she was right; living with parents and going to visit friends is not the same as living with friends. I have found myself jealous of the other CCC kids who, despite having been reluctantly jolted from their Florida community into new colleges, are, many of them, at a school with at least one other Clearwater student. They are dispersed, but not alone. I have felt very alone.
Speaking of thankful for new friends,
if it weren't for this girl, who knows
how I would have survived so far!
God brings people along right when
you need them! 
It makes it sound like I don’t appreciate my friends here, but I do. I am so very thankful for my friends, old and new; they have already helped me through so much. But Clearwater was a home to me, and those people were family. There was an intimacy there that was grown through time, laughter, and shared heartaches. And those friends were always around when I needed them—literally steps away. I am probably the world’s worst person at keeping up with people, so that also doesn’t help things. Nor does the fact that Matty’s schedule and mine are painfully incompatible 85% of the time—long distance stinks more than I thought it would. And I did not have glowing expectations to begin with.
So here I was, bemoaning my circumstances. I have yet to settle into school—academics being the one thing in my life that I usually have a sort of a handle on. There is no longer Easter Library at which to meet up with Stacie, Matty, Colton, and/or Harrison—to “study” (i.e. drink unreasonable amounts of coffee, laugh, and somehow learn along the way). There are no post-dinner walks with Matty to unload my stress and worries and day events. Em is no longer around to overdramatically share academic concerns. Stacie can’t grab me on our way out of DL meeting and force me (in her gentle and loving way) to fess up with what is bothering me. There’s no Colton to serenade us all with his guitar as we actually do get work done in Steele lobby. No Nienhuis to sit in my room as I do my devos then talk about life with me before I head to Cantorum. (And there’s no choir/Cantorum to satisfy my musical side.) There is no brunch on late Saturday mornings, surrounded by people who know me, get me, and love me…or endless fruit. There are no calls from Gerson when I oversleep (thankfully, I haven’t overslept yet), or Adam to give me a hard time when my brain isn’t functioning 100%. Or Yeater to give me a hard time….regardless of how my brain is functioning. Or a never-failing pun or moment of Mumford obsession from Jake. Life is feeling tedious, and school, unending. I felt like I was missing out on the good and getting an overwhelming dose of mediocre.
Look how funny he thinks he is, tickling me as if it's cute...
 Only 32 more days, and he'll be in Chatt! He has been the
strong optimist this time around, insisting that we will see
each other "soon," even when "soon" meant the longest stretch
of being apart that we've had to stick out since we started dating
Then I read that post, and I was reminded that God is giving me exactly what I need right now. He wants me to be here, doing what I’m doing, because it’s what is best for me at this time. It’s not robbery that I have to be two states away from Matty; it’s the optimal distance for us right now. It’s not drudgery that I have two years of nursing school; it’s a blessing—one that I know I don’t deserve. It’s not unfair that I’m away from my CCC family; we are all with whom we are supposed to be with, to grow us and teach us most efficiently. God taught me so much in my two years at CCC; I have to remember that those lessons were to prepare me for where I am now. And where I am now has lessons to prepare me for wherever I head next. And all those lessons combined will help me through the rest of life, where I will continue to learn and grow and be surprised. I must focus on Christ, my sun and shield, trust in Him, and walk uprightly. I must not be sluggish—academically or spiritually. He is not withholding any good from me, and I must not withhold any worship and praise from Him.

“I will sing of the steadfast love of the Lord, forever;
with my mouth I will make known
your faithfulness to all generations.”
Psalm 89:1

Saturday, June 6, 2015

Happy Drugs, Hills, and Hospitality

Favourite spots from my running route

“Say ‘yes’ to drugs!”
The whole Microbiology class chuckled as our professor made this challenge with great enthusiasm. As I laughed, a little extra glee trickled in, mixed with pride. Because recently, I’ve been saying ‘yes’ to drugs—and I’m loving it.
Now. to you who are growing concerned, thinking, “She’s only been in a secular college for a few weeks and she’s already gone off the deep end!” you can relax. The “drugs” we were discussing were hormones—endorphins being released during and after vigorous exercise. My professor, Dr. Wollert, was asking if any of us had ever been addicted to exercise.
“Anyone? Really? This isn’t a bad thing… seriously? None of you. I have a class of couch potatoes, I see. Come on, it’s great! You get done and suddenly all these endorphins are kicking in and you’re just like, ‘ah yea! This is great! I’m like high right now!’ This is a good thing—say ‘yes’ to drugs!”
I’ve been running more and more over the past year. I started out small, only being able to do about a mile. Then I started consistently running 1.5 miles. Then I bumped it up to 3.1 sometime over my last semester at school. However, running a 5k in Florida is NOT the same thing as running a 5k in Tennessee. Where I live here, in TN, it’s all hills. My neighbourhood is like a rolling tide, with barely a flat space to be seen. Besides, down to the cul-de-sac and back is only about a mile. If I wanted to do 3.1, I’d have to do three repetitive runs of nothing but excruciating hills. No thank you. One day I tried a different route, bravely leaving my neighbourhood, and found that it’s about 1.5 miles down to a local airfield (one of the little ones for little, privately owned planes). The route has hills, but they are relatively scattered, gradual, and not nearly as vicious. The only bad ones are the one leaving my neighbourhood at the beginning of the run, and the one leading back up to that one when I am coming back. I quickly worked my way up to being able to run the whole thing (all-in-all it’s about 3.1-3.2), and now I’m working on shaving seconds off my time. My times are still longer than they were in FL, but that doesn’t bother me at all, because I’m working way harder than I was there (FL is flatter than a pancake, and I was right at sea level. Running was a breeze). And the more I run, the more I love it and the more I want to do it. Not necessarily always during the run—sometimes I just want to be DONE. But right after I finish, and as my breathing staggers its way back to normalcy, I begin to feel stronger, greater. The endorphins that sustained me as I finished are now running rampage through my resting body, making me feel glorious. The sense of accomplishment. The hormones. It’s wonderful. No matter how good or bad my time is, as long as I don’t quit, I feel like a superhero when I’m done. And I want to feel that again. When I’m feeling lazy the next day or just don’t feel like taking the time out to run, I remember that feeling. I want it. So I run. I wouldn’t say I’m addicted, but I definitely understand the feeling. The desire to reach that high again. And I just get the little one that comes with a 5K—I can’t imagine how euphoric those marathon runners’ highs feel like!
 It’s also starting to be one of my coping strategies when I’m stressed or upset. Now, I know that I can’t depend on running to make myself happy—I need to find my joy and peace in Christ, because, like, any drug, the feeling from running fades, and I’m still left with my problems to deal with. However, going running is progress for me. I hit a bit of an emotional low this past Spring semester, and I had a lot of free time on my hands. Slowly, I started to realize that I was just trying to sleep away my problems. If something was frustrating or upsetting, I would go straight to bed and nap. It got to the point where, if I was upset or provoked in the slightest, my body would start to shut down and get really tired all of the sudden—even if I was fully rested and completely functional minutes before. It was not the best coping strategy. So now, instead of sleeping, I’ve started wanting to run instead. I’m not one of those people who can think while they run. Or pray. I don’t get that. Like yea, I think a lot while I’m running, but I have almost no reign over what thoughts go through my head. They’re scattered and disjointed, and they flip over and over without me even realizing it. Basically, when my body goes for a run, so does my brain. I try the whole praying thing or planning or sorting out my feelings—yea, no. It doesn’t really work. I can do it for about ten seconds, but soon I just find myself repeating,
“And Lord, please be with (insert name) and help them. Uh. Life. And. Be with (insert same name), because. Uh. please be with (same name).”

You see. It really gets nowhere. I applaud and envy all you who can have special prayer times during your workouts. Really, I do. I just can’t focus my mind like that.
So running is basically 30 minutes of going. Pushing. Thinking random thoughts: mostly escape plans of “what would happen if someone tried to abduct me right here?” or “I really like this field. It’s pretty. It distracts me from the fact that I’m running uphill right now… no. don’t think about the uphill. Pretty field. Think pretty field.”
That’s just about as deep as my mid-run mind gets. Actually, I get a lot of first paragraphs of potential blog posts mentally written during some downhills. Obviously, they don’t often develop. Nor do I often remember them afterwards.
However, running has given me more than happy drugs and a sense of accomplishment. It has let me see goodness in random people.
Running as a young lady can be a little intimidating. I don’t usually feel particularly intimidated, but I’m always afraid someone is going to tell me I can’t anymore because it’s “not safe” or something. I’m not stupid or na├»ve, so I do try to practice good runners’ safety. And, as previously mentioned, probably at least 40% of my rambling runner thoughts are epic escape plans for if I were to be attacked at any given moment (another 5% goes to the thoughts of “Good glory breathing is rough right now—would I even be able to scream?” A question that was answered the day that, despite the fact that I was taxed from just running a steep hill, I unintentionally screamed when a dog behind a fence surprised me. It was out before I realized what I was doing, almost making me doubt whether or not I had actually screamed. My strained vocal cords, however, assured me that I had). Yea, I am extremely wary of the cars that pass me. And people (though I rarely ever pass people aside from the ones mowing their lawns). However, there have been some occurrences that, though I was in no danger, the caution that other people had for my safety reminded me that, while there is danger of running alone (there’s potential danger in basically everything we do, honestly), and there are creepers out there, there are also nice people out there.
The first experience was right in front of my house at the very end of my run. The final stretch for me is going down a big hill at the entrance of my neighbourhood, sprinting the flat space in front of my house, then turning up into my driveway. On my descent, this certain day, our neighbour’s dog, Mo, decided to come out and remind me of her existence. I got to the place where I would normally sprint, but Mo was RIGHT there. RIGHT next to me. Barking and nudging up to me. She likes to run after people to begin with (never hurting, just annoying), and she just had a litter of puppies. So now she thinks she needs to remind us all that this is her territory. Like I said, she never hurts anyone. And her owners were out in their lawn, so I didn’t really think any harm was going to come to me, but she messed up my final sprint. And, the whole last stretch, I was pushing her away, saying “no, Mo! No! Go home!” I got back to my house, the neighbours came and got Mo, and I began climbing the stairs up to my front door. As I did so, I saw a car drive slowly down the road with its windows rolled down. It was the same car that had passed me to leave the subdivision when Mo was pestering me. The man in the drivers seat leaned his head out and said,
“I’m sorry I did not stop when that dog was bothering you. Are you okay? I should have stopped.”
I explained that I was fine and she didn’t hurt me. (If you’re questioning me talking to strangers, he and I were actually quite far apart, and he was making no move to exit his vehicle—he genuinely was checking on my safety). After expressing his disapproval of the dog’s owners and receiving further confirmation on my safety, he left.
He had apologized. Apologized. Because he hadn’t stopped when he first saw the dog getting all up in my space. He had obviously felt so guilty that he had turned around at the top of the hill and drove back, unable to go on when there was a potential dog attack occurring behind him—one that he could have prevented.
The next one really has nothing to do with safety—it was just one of those little blessings, being reminded of the beauty and simplicity of childhood.
It had been a rough run, and I did not feel like braving my last hill. I had opted to run in the evening, thinking it would be a good time, and letting me get things done throughout the day. Eh—nope. The roads were busy with people getting back from work. So not only was I being stopped at intersections, I also had to drink in these people’s exhaust trails, because who doesn’t want contaminated air when they’re struggling to breathe to begin with? I thought it would be cooler, running at 6 p.m. I did not account for the fact that, though the sun was lower in the sky, it 1) was still beating on me, just from a different angle, and 2) had been baking the ground all day, so now the heat was coming from above and below. And lots of people were home, so they were mowing their lawns! Because there’s nothing like a lung full of allergens as you run. Okay, so I was being pretty grouchy. And I wanted to just walk my last hill. But I knew that I would hate myself for it after. But I still wanted to do it. I was debating, still running, when I passed this house. In the lawn stood these two little boys. One was probably 6 or so, the other was probably more around 3. He seemed very young, but apparently old enough to be potty trained, because he was wearing nothing but some little-boy unders. As I passed, they both smiled and waved, and one of them, in his high, innocent voice, chipperly called out, “HI!” I responded with a smile, a wave, and new determination to finish that run.
The most recent occurrence was today. I am usually much too proud to walk during a run. It almost never happens. I pray (literally) for loss of consciousness before I am willing to quit. However, today there were different things interfering with my run, and, honestly, I just wanted more peace. I wanted a quite walk. I just, didn’t feel like running. It wasn’t that I was too tired. I just wanted to walk. So, about ¼ way in to the second half (I had already turned around at the skypark and was heading back home), I passed this adorable little house. It’s one of my favourite ones to pass. It’s sweet and quaint—with a not so sweet and quaint “NO TRESSPASSING” sign in the front lawn. And there are always people about, it seems. I believe grandparents live there, and their kids and grandkids are often visiting. And if there aren’t people arriving or leaving as I pass, I usually see the old man in his screened-in front porch. So they do often see me, as well. I don’t know if they’ve grown used to seeing me run past twice in a row, or if it was the sight of a young lady who was obviously just running but now is walking down the road that triggered their concern. I had just been distracted by some little creatures in the gutter, so I had slightly mis-stepped and had to regain my proper footing. Maybe they saw that and thought I was struggling. I don’t know. But, as I passed the house, a man and his (very) young son were walking out of the screened-in porch. They stood there in the doorway (quite a distance from the road where I was), saw me, and called out, “You alright?” I smiled, assured him I was, and we all three went on our merry little ways.
These little things were so simple. They weren’t superfluous. They didn’t try to come to me, but respecting the universal knowledge that someone approaching you as you run by yourself is going to be taken as a threat, they called out to make sure I was fine. Didn’t pursue. Didn’t press me when I assured them of my safety. They just checked and went on their way.
Perhaps you’re more pessimistic than I, and you still see these as threatening. You may be even questioning whether or not letting me go out on my own is such a good idea after all.
Or maybe you’re fine, but you see nothing super special about these small interactions. “So what?” you might think.
But to me, they meant a lot. They weren’t responsible for me, but still took the responsibility of checking on my safety. They didn’t pursue me or push me. There was nothing threatening in any of these interactions. They just showed me that, were I in danger, they would have helped. Otherwise, they’ll leave me be. People like that aren’t always around. And I don’t put my trust in the presence of strangers. But being reminded that there are people out there who, not only won’t bother me, but would help me if I were to need it—that put a smile to my face. Because what if Mo had attacked, and his owners weren’t around to notice? That man would have been there to save me. What if I had passed out on the side of the road in front of that family’s house? Someone would have been there to pull me off the street.
We expect everyone to be an enemy—sometimes that keeps us safe. Because there are people who will take advantage of weakness. Even ones that will feign hospitality so that they can get your guard down and get at you. But it’s good to be reminded that not everyone is terrible. There are people, random people, who not only aren’t going to hurt you, but are willing to help you if they needed to.

And when you mix happy hormones with hospitality, you get one encouraged runner.
It's important to remember that running is an excellent excuse
to wear an absurd amount of neon:)